An Open Letter to my Facebook Friends:

I just have to say, I’m so happy to have all of you in my weird, sometimes off-putting Facebook land.

Today social media exploded with beautiful news. That news, fantastically, has remained beautiful as the day has worn on. What I’ve seen from the moment I woke up until now, when I’m about to go to bed, has been love, support, exultations, pride and sheer joy. Don’t even get me started on the rainbows!

Even our tea celebrated
Even our tea celebrated

Not many days are like this, especially on social media, and especially from so many people who walk so many different paths. A lot of you are like me: hey man, let’s all just get along, shall we? Some of you are liberal, some are conservative. Artists, accountants, day laborers. I know a few Republicans among you, some hippies, some half-assed churchy folks and some straight-up Mormons. Very wealthy; very poor.

I’m from the Midwest and with that fact comes the piggybacking reality that I grew up around my fair share of racism, sexism and homophobia. Part of me still bristles quietly with the icky anticipation of the possibility of a confrontation when I’m sharing my happiness about something wonderful like today’s Supreme Court decision to make marriage legal for everyone, regardless of their sexual orientation.

There was no confrontation today. Today, everything was just…Love.

Sure, this may have something to do with the fact that over the years I’ve weeded out negative people by deleting them or blocking them. But I don’t think that’s it.

I’m reminded of arriving – many years ago, now – at my dear friends Jason​ and Mandi​’s wedding party in New York where, after hugs and directions to the wine, Mandi said to me “…and listen, have a good time, there ain’t no assholes here.” I remember thinking, ‘what?! You can not invite the assholes to your wedding party?!’ She has always been a bit of a hero to me.

I often remember that moment, and have slowly but also very surely been eliminating assholes from my life, and replacing them with people and things which bring me joy.

Today, all of you bring me joy. I haven’t seen one negative, sarcastic, disrespectful or unsupportive comment in response to marriage equality. I have only seen, again and again, love.

Thanks for being you.


side note: I wish my Love Wins hashtag turned into a rainbow heart like it does on Twitter! And yes I was lazy and used the auto-fill for my Marriage Equality hashtag, and will forever be branded as a misspeller. But you know what? It’s okay. Love still wins.

ok so I did see some boo-hooing on Twitter, but not from anyone I know

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